Defining LOVE for the Chennai audience :)
Love - An oft misquoted term, which simply means a plethora of misplaced hormones going into overdrive. A strong feeling of magnetism that tries to pull two confused beings into a bubble, which tricks them into a false sense of joy and serenity. Love, is a shortlived emotion. Let it rest!
Love, that springs from the bottom of the heart when a week-old baby gurgles at you, has a longer life than the hormonal surge. I am not talking about honey-sweet emotions connected with mothers, siblings and flowers, puppies etc. I am not even talking about the babies sleeping on bathtowels, like those in a Anne Geddes card. I am talking about the bonding between two unsuspecting people, who are unable to behave rationally once they are "bitten" by the love bug.
Why I chose to call it a bug, is that once you are bitten, you become devoid of rational thought and behaviour. You tend to forget things, as your hard disk is on an overdrive trying to store images of your beloved! If only you could clear up all the extra bytes of storage space. You might be able to remember that you have to finish that project by Thursday. Or that you have not yet paid the Electricity Bills!
Love, an emotion, that is the best marketing tool that creates maximum hype. Better than any well-thought out ad, a simple kindling of the heart strings is enough to start a rush to the greeting card stores and flower shops. Why, do rational people suddenly become mushy creatures, when they hear a strange voice saying, I Love You???
Why!
Well, let us agree that love (or a hormonal surge) does happen, between two unlikely people and they feel they cannot live without each other! Its another matter that they hate each other exactly a year later; I have seen many girlfriends looking at the next door guy for timepass! So much for true love fundas floating in the milky white clouds. Huh!
I have seen love happen between two totally disparate characters. In their right minds they never would have chosen each other. But, they do. Once thats done, and the initial wooing stage is over, the two start taking the partner for granted. The love has started to become a bit stale. Time is maybe 6 months or so into the new relationship. The late night talks have become less regular, and the love-struck guy is a bit aloof now. Maybe he thinks the chick in his office is hot and maybe in his frenzied nights he is making out with her, mentally! But he has a girlfriend, and whom he got after a lot of hardwork. Yes, he is still attached to the girl, but the curves have lost their lustre and she is now a regular girl for him. If he is forgetful, like the guy on 2nd main road (Maha, u know who), he might not even recognise his girlfriend if she walks before him on the road.
The hot babe at office is giving him looks too. Would she be ready for a date or two? What if she says no? But like numerous love struck couples the guy is looking elsewhere for his daily quota of adrenalin rush and his girlfriend is mentally painting their bedroom walls! Deja vu` ?
This is a familair scene, across cities, nations. People tend to fall out of love, faster than they fell in love. They dont take much time to prove their innocence by saying, "Hey, can't I go out for a drink, with my office colleague?" Yes, dude you can, but you CANNOT look down her blouse and think about her in the night, while talking sweet-nothings (Yuk!) to your poor-loyal girlfriend.
Facts prove that men are infidel by nature. They have a natural urge to spread their seeds. So they cant help but ogle at the next available woman. Well, love (for men?) is only a feeling that resonates and thumps somewhere in the anatomy, but never near the heart. Love for the girl has now turned into something resembling matrimony! But does the guy recognise this? He simply shrugs and says, "I never saw you in that angle. You are a great lover, but I cannot marry you." Hello! Mr. You have just driven a poor girl to suicide! Love is a commodity. Sell it. Use it. But never give it freely. My tuppence. : )
Love, that springs from the bottom of the heart when a week-old baby gurgles at you, has a longer life than the hormonal surge. I am not talking about honey-sweet emotions connected with mothers, siblings and flowers, puppies etc. I am not even talking about the babies sleeping on bathtowels, like those in a Anne Geddes card. I am talking about the bonding between two unsuspecting people, who are unable to behave rationally once they are "bitten" by the love bug.
Why I chose to call it a bug, is that once you are bitten, you become devoid of rational thought and behaviour. You tend to forget things, as your hard disk is on an overdrive trying to store images of your beloved! If only you could clear up all the extra bytes of storage space. You might be able to remember that you have to finish that project by Thursday. Or that you have not yet paid the Electricity Bills!
Love, an emotion, that is the best marketing tool that creates maximum hype. Better than any well-thought out ad, a simple kindling of the heart strings is enough to start a rush to the greeting card stores and flower shops. Why, do rational people suddenly become mushy creatures, when they hear a strange voice saying, I Love You???
Why!
Well, let us agree that love (or a hormonal surge) does happen, between two unlikely people and they feel they cannot live without each other! Its another matter that they hate each other exactly a year later; I have seen many girlfriends looking at the next door guy for timepass! So much for true love fundas floating in the milky white clouds. Huh!
I have seen love happen between two totally disparate characters. In their right minds they never would have chosen each other. But, they do. Once thats done, and the initial wooing stage is over, the two start taking the partner for granted. The love has started to become a bit stale. Time is maybe 6 months or so into the new relationship. The late night talks have become less regular, and the love-struck guy is a bit aloof now. Maybe he thinks the chick in his office is hot and maybe in his frenzied nights he is making out with her, mentally! But he has a girlfriend, and whom he got after a lot of hardwork. Yes, he is still attached to the girl, but the curves have lost their lustre and she is now a regular girl for him. If he is forgetful, like the guy on 2nd main road (Maha, u know who), he might not even recognise his girlfriend if she walks before him on the road.
The hot babe at office is giving him looks too. Would she be ready for a date or two? What if she says no? But like numerous love struck couples the guy is looking elsewhere for his daily quota of adrenalin rush and his girlfriend is mentally painting their bedroom walls! Deja vu` ?
This is a familair scene, across cities, nations. People tend to fall out of love, faster than they fell in love. They dont take much time to prove their innocence by saying, "Hey, can't I go out for a drink, with my office colleague?" Yes, dude you can, but you CANNOT look down her blouse and think about her in the night, while talking sweet-nothings (Yuk!) to your poor-loyal girlfriend.
Facts prove that men are infidel by nature. They have a natural urge to spread their seeds. So they cant help but ogle at the next available woman. Well, love (for men?) is only a feeling that resonates and thumps somewhere in the anatomy, but never near the heart. Love for the girl has now turned into something resembling matrimony! But does the guy recognise this? He simply shrugs and says, "I never saw you in that angle. You are a great lover, but I cannot marry you." Hello! Mr. You have just driven a poor girl to suicide! Love is a commodity. Sell it. Use it. But never give it freely. My tuppence. : )
Yep nk i agree to your facts. Does true love exist in this planet? Well my answer is a big 'NO'. Not that I am against the concept of love, but I doubt the genunineness. Now-a-days, love has become more like an accessory. Each boy or girl just want to show a person as their so called "LOVER", like the rest of the crowd. But do these people really make a life long committment of becoming true partners.
ReplyDeleteAnd as per your comments on the attitude of men, yes I do agree a little bit, but not in enterity. In fact, I have not looked deep in the concept of men's desire for women.Not all men are like them. There are many instances, where a girl just drops a guy in the name of marriage - so called marriage arranged by their parents. In the end the lovers turn into brother and sister. I really wonder how they can do that.
Love is not about flesh, beauty, or hearts. It is about understanding, accepting, agreeing, compromising, fighting, loving, and above all caring for one another. After all love is a mixture of emotions. You need to a maintain a balance at all phases, so that you can enjoy the best of your love and your lover.
Yes what you said is absolutely true. Only I beg to differ on one issue - that all men are promiscuous. I have seen women who have been as promiscuous as men. It's how we as humans (male or female) tend to look at love that really matters in relationships. Most often lust is misconstrued as love. True love lasts a life-time, while lust lasts as long there is lustre in a relationship. Finally, it is all about choosing the right person for a succesful and long-lasting relationship. :)
ReplyDeletehey nithi..that was very well written and is so true.It runs in a man's blood to take a woman for granted.harsh reality!!!hmmm!!!
ReplyDeletehmmm.. men.. they are an obnoxious lot
ReplyDeletethats a very sad pice nitty. Dont be so heart broken. things will work out. sorry for you though. but you are a gritty nitty girt. so you will surely get back on.
ReplyDeleteDear Nithi,
ReplyDeleteWhatever you said is quite true. But not all men are like that. But most of them are. But real love is one where one accepts the other for what they really are. It will last forever.
Hello author, i dont agree with you that all men take women for granted. Beacuse, i have loved a girl for six years inspite of her not looking back. I am still waiting for her to accept me and i have no second thought about her. Well, i think you wrote this because you might have had misconception about love or you might have longed the wrong person. Anyway dont worry , you are sure to be alright and i am sure that you will find the right person. Okay bye and happy blogging:-)
ReplyDeleteI again repeat my point. Love is a true feeling and union of hearts not bodies. If love is based on physical union, it is called something else. I also want to clarify that not all men are selfish and hypocratic as you think. :-)ANyway good blog.
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