Why we do what we do?



A close girl friend and I were having this conversation last evening. We usually end up talking about such issues, passionately, such as behaviour of young women vis a vis their mothers in law (MILs).

She said, when we retort back to our MILs, we are actually behaving the way they want us to behave, like daughters in law (DILs). If we keep our sanity intact, curb the urge to murder them, and behave in a rational way, the MILs wont know how to react. This, is easier said than done.

She continued, MILs as a group are a very insecure lot. They are scared that the young hot woman in their son's life is out to rob them of the unbridled freedom and hold they had on the men's lives. The young women take away the most important possession from the MILs, their darling sons! They show no remorse, no pity to the older women. The DILs take away the sons physically away sometimes as well. The MILs find themselves completely cloistered with their husbands, again! This causes a lot of heartache.

Now, a MIL has to do what she has to do. Then, why cant the DIL change the way she wants to lead her life. Ideally, the DIL should carry on doing what she feels is correct but at the same time respect the older woman. After all the poor woman has given birth to your precious hunk. ;)

Now, my thoughts reflect the above. I would also add that being nasty to the old woman wont take us anywhere. Let us be nice to her and confuse her. :)

Ciao till the next one.     

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